In today's world, it isn't at all uncommon to have blended families. I came from a blended family and I'm thankful I did, as it was one of the many situations throughout my life that helped prepare me for my journey. My path. My future. Today.
That said, I wish there was a "Bonus Parenting for Dummies" book out there. You know, those bright yellow books at Barnes and Nobles, that also came in the form of "Cliff's Notes" for those boring novels you didn't feel like reading for school?
But, nope. There isn't. There isn't a "How-To" guide that outlines how to be the best bonus parent. Bonus parenting is hard. You're filling a role that you can never fill the shoes for. You're having to trust your gut, and follow your heart, to know that you are doing what is in the best interest of that child, while in many circumstances including mine, still keeping my own child's interests and growth equally at heart.
Look, I'm sure my story isn't much different than tons of others. And in many cases, it's likely a lot better than some of the situations people have chosen to, and/or, had to take on as a result of their relationships, but that doesn't make it any easier.
Parenting is hard. I'm sure there's a multitude of ways to over complicate it, especially when you and the other half may not always be on the same page, but SHEESH. Sometimes it's just downright hard.
What I am starting to see and learn, is that..these moments that are "hard" are only temporary moments in time. How I respond and react to these moments, no longer solely impact me, but they are influencing the lives of two little humans that I've been blessed with watching over and guiding. And goodNESS does God trust me lol - because I am by no means the perfect angel to walk next to.
At the end of the day...life is hard. That is all there is to it. But, I'm also learning that we, as a society, make things harder than they likely need to be. It might be pride, it might be out of competition, who the heck knows...
All I know is, I pray and meditate every day, that I can raise these kids the way that they need to be, which is to be respectful, God and Universe respecting, contributors to society.
That's all for now.